كتابى الثانى عن البقارة: عادات وتقاليد الزواج لدى البقارة فى السودان .. (لمحات وصور من الكتاب)

Quote: BOYS: Although, it seems, boys have nothing to do with girls and women marriages, but, they are involved or forced by young men into facilitating social life of Baggara youth, or discerning a covered up plots of social affairs. Baggara young men can send boys right into another camp in completely fake tales that they are thirsty and need water to drink, but in fact they want to find out if a girl is at home or if she is alone. Sometimes young men stuff the boys’ pockets with gifts and letters to empty them to girls or to send them verbal messages. Boys are also employed by young men in snitching plots. They tell them to sniff any signs or signals about existence of affairs between someone with any of their girls. Boys are obligated by young men orders; they watch girls whenever they go and listen to their conversations among each other and carry the conversations messages to young men. In similar way, young ladies can lure the boys to be on their side by giving them gifts or making them favors. It is a complex social world and whoever win to manipulate the boys to his favor my get away with what he want to do or achieve. In this way, Baggara boys are brought into the adult conversation at an unusually young age, and hence they are socially mature before their peers in cities and urban centers. In doing so, boys promote marriages in an indirect way and discourage girls infidelity. If a boy caught being sided on girls side, he will be ridiculed of not being manly enough and he may bore a nickname as “girls’ brother” which means he is girly in his manner.

(عدل بواسطة بريمة محمد on 10-15-2013, 02:51 PM)