الـصـور لا تــكـذب أبــــداً .....(الجزء الثاني)...

Quote: How to Forgive Someone Forgiving someone can seem tough at first, but it's really not that complicated. It's even quite simple. Steps 1. Accept the truth: you are angry at that person. This is hurting you, as well as others around if that makes you in a bad mood. It can even hurt the person you are resentful about. 2. Tell yourself or the person itself how much the situation hurt. 3. Occupy your mind by something else, and accept that what is done is done. Being resentful will just keep you angry and easily startled... or sad, at least. 4. Visualize what you want to happen when you might confront the person (this is the mental #####alent of writing a letter and not mailing it). Realize that confronting someone may not be the best course of action. 5. Think of actions you can take in the future to avoid the situation that resulted in your being hurt. This is not always possible, but sometimes a topic may come up and a discussion can cause hard feelings. Determine what you could have said that would have made your point, but not antagonized the other person. Tips · Think twice: Decide whether the person really deserves to be forgiven or not. · Confide to another friend or family member. They may help you overcome the situation or change your mind. · As difficult as it may seem, speak to the one who offended you. If they are human, they may try to make amends. · Realize that confronting the person may not change anything. If someone hurts you intentionally, it is unlikely they will accept responsibility or make amends, particularly abusers. Be aware that they may take this opportunity to try and put the fault of the situation on you. This is particularly common amoung unfaithful spouses (e.g. "Its your fault I cheated, if you didn't spend so much time at work..."). · Realize that we are all adults and that we have choices about who we associate with. Family is tough, but if you have issue with someone, spend some time away from him or her. You may realize that the person is not worth spending time with. Find new friends and people in your life. Warnings · No one can even force you to forgive, but do it for yourself... for your sanity. It may be a long process, but never give up. · No one can force you to forgive, but you will often be pressured to do so. This is to validate the offender and make them feel that their offense is not that great. You must forgive at your own pace. Rushing this process will cause lingering resentment. · Try to understand and realize the true motivations of the offender. Often people will give a false reason for their behavior, knowingly or unknowingly. If you embrace this truth, you will find the world easier to live in. Regards and forgive me all J